Successful relationships, like thriving businesses, require intentional effort and strategic planning. Commitment, sacrifice, and unconditional love are not merely sentimental ideals; they are foundational principles for building a strong, lasting marriage. Jason and Tori Benham, relationship coaches and authors, offer a pragmatic framework for couples seeking to deepen their connection and navigate conflict constructively.
Navigating Conflict with the LEARN Method
The Benhams advocate for viewing disagreements not as roadblocks, but as opportunities for growth. Their “LEARN” method provides a structured approach to resolving conflict:
- Listen: Prioritize understanding your partner’s perspective before attempting to convey your own.
- Empathize: Seek shared emotional understanding rather than simply shared experiences.
- Ask: Engage with open-ended questions, such as “What do you need most right now?”
- Responsibility: Take ownership of your role in the issue.
- Never: Dismiss or undervalue your spouse’s feelings or perspective.
A Real-Life Example: Resilience Under Pressure
Jason and Tori faced public adversity when a television network terminated their show due to their outspoken beliefs. Tori’s encouragement helped Jason remain steadfast in his convictions, demonstrating the power of mutual support during challenging times. This example underscores the importance of shared values and unwavering commitment in a marriage.
Resources for Couples
For couples seeking deeper guidance, Focus on the Family offers counseling services, radio programs, podcasts, and the book Marriage A to Z: 30 Days to Relational Transformation. Additional support and local resources are available by calling 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459) during business hours.
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Ultimately, a thriving marriage is not about avoiding conflict, but about embracing a proactive, intentional approach to growth and connection
